Come As You Are

This book is very good. It is clear why Amazon rates it #1 in several of their (fine grained) categories. It is packed with truth to counteract the lies about sexuality rampant in our society. It is filled with approaches to improve one’s life. In the conclusion is this paragraph: “If you can remember even one of the ideas in this book—no two alike, brakes and accelerator, context, nonconcordant arousal, responsive desire, any of them—and use it to improve your relationship with your own sexuality, you’ll be helping me with that goal. And if you share any of these ideas with even one other person, you’ll be expanding the global space in which women can live with confidence and joy.” It also continually reminds us: “You are Normal.”

Really enjoyed the book. As a guy reading it I felt like it was insightful and I took some good lessons from it.

Refreshingly Science Based!! Soooo good!! Educational and fun to read. I found many of the anecdotes extraordinarily helpful and eye opening. Anyone discussing intimate relationships with women must read this book.

I love this book. It teaches you a lot of things as an individual or a partner and contradicts modern science in a way that makes complete sense. This book will educate you in ways of confidence, pleasure, and understanding the deep root behind a lot of pyschological things about your body and mind. The only thing i did not like within thebook itself is that the author will write about a specific topic and the tell you all throughout thebook that they will speak about it later. I wish they would just speak the whole thing then and there instead of redirecting you to different chapters. Other than that, excellent book.

Packed with valuable information and humor. This book will enlighten, enliven, and move you towards a much healthier and much more joyous experience of your own sexuality. Thank you, Emily, for writing this book!

Got it for an 18yo looking to learn the ins and outs of sex in it’s entirety beyond just how-to. This was something she reported “she needed” after reluctantly opening; and is now reading and learning important things that will empower her moving forward; give her control, and to know herself best before letting someone explore on their own. Powerful, wonderful. I’ll get it for any young adult transitioning to adulthood. It’s a mission of mine to empower young woman and make it normal to have important conversations that have historically been taboo.

I couldn't put it down, I read it in one day. If you're a survivor of SA or have religious trauma, or if you're even just curious if you're missing something, I recommend it highly. She writes in an informal tone, and makes a heavy subject feel a lot lighter. I think all women should read it, and if you're a man at least read chapter 6 bc it'll help dissolve any guilt towards things you can't control.

This book helped me look on my experiences and relationship, as well as my own body, with new insight. There’s a lot of hostility and manipulation aimed at women designed to make us see ourselves as less than we are. Sometimes this is to sell us something, sometimes this is so someone can more easily victimize us. Instead, Emily Nagoski suggests that we realize how the messaging can keep us from being ourselves and enjoying ourselves with the men in our lives. She says that being kind to yourself and letting yourself feel what you feel can let you find sexual joy. Self-criticism and seeing ourselves as broken is a self-fulfilling prophesy. By treating yourself the way you’d treat a loved one who’s hurting, you can relax into pleasure. This is a terrific book and I plan to recommend it to every woman I know, along with the men who love them.