Don't Forget Your Crown: Self-Love has everything to do with it.

Shoes every effort into making a relationship work and knowing your values and your worth

i loved this book… really gives me a “no bs” and unfiltered insight into how men and women think and believe. I loved how Derrick wrote it - it felt like i was listening to a friend share their healing and growth journey and really left me with a smile on how the book ended ! Thank you for creating this book and reminding us all how self love is number 1

The title of my review (minus the "Grown Women") appears on Page 116 of Derrick Jaxn's book. And, that's a good summation of the entire book---Jaxn has written it as a guidebook for women who have been abused and/or used by game-playing man-boys. In fact, women would NOT get as hurt (or hurt at all) by these man-boys if they "prioritized the protection of their emotional well-being" instead of being swept away by unchecked game.Men and women are often operating from 2 different playbooks, especially when young and/or inexperienced. Young males are often taught to "pursue the p___", with little regard for the woman it's attached to, as if it could be separated. Young females are usually conditioned to pursue love.To protect themselves, women need to examine the part of social conditioning that a man is linked into. This may include messages that prohibit love, and those men will be incapable of love, at least in their current state. And, since "raising a man" is an uphill, draining battle AT ITS BEST, leave that man alone to either grow up or stagnate, but do NOT let him decelerate an already-grown woman. And, remember that it is always easier to fall than to rise, so, chances are, if an already-grown woman attempts to raise a man, she will end up sinking down to some semblance of his level, or lose herself in the process. This is actually what happens during Jaxn's first attempt with Da'Naia in the book.It's easier to prevent a bad relationship than it is to extract yourself from one. So, with that in mind, remember this quote from Page 122: "That 'love at first sight' is just lust and wishful thinking". Be alert to incoming deal breakers in the BEGINNING of the relationship. For example, Derrick says, on Page 113: "If a guy stares at other women's bodies as they walk by...deal breaker!" He goes on to say, on Page 114, that winning men "don't show red flags in the initial dating stages". And, don't fall into the trap of thinking "it could be worse", either! Compare UP, not down. On that same page, he says women "don't win because you're simply not doing as bad as most, or because it could be worse"!A Grown Man Will Match a Grown Woman's Effort. Flip the social conditioning script that says a woman needs to contort into whatever a man-boy needs or wants, and, as Jaxn says on Page 139: "STOP thinking about what a man wants AND start deciding whether he's even worth being wanted".

I read this book within the 3 weeks after my divorce, I was on the receiving end of infidelity and witnessed full effects upon her of both lack of self-love and how all of that can be exacerbated by alcoholism. She had purchased this book a year ago during another rough patch that was also fed by depression and drinking. I gave it back to her to re-read and see if it can offer her another perspective after her infidelity. It provided information and insight to the perspective of the parties within relationships. I will be re-reading once the coping/healing period has passed and my mindset is different to see what other information I can take from it. I would absolutely recommend this book to anyone who would like to peer into the potential troubles of relationships and for ideas that should be used to strengthen current or future endeavors. I passed the name of the book to a co-worker today and recommended to him that he, and his soon to be wife, read it, I would be very curious as to what lessons he would take from the book as a man who went through a similar situation to mine a couple years ago and is currently happily engaged to the woman he loves and respects, yet still retains some very hard feelings towards his ex. Maybe some of the mechanisms discussed in the book can help him to move beyond the hurt so he can be the man he will need to be in this relationship. Only gave this 4-stars due to the fact that some of my own experience and training in psychology and sociology would tend to disagree on some of the recommendations or admissions that he makes to the reader. Overall though, take everything you can from this book because it does have much to offer.

I was initially extremely sceptical about purchasing this book. I wasn't sure how well written it would be. However, this man has obviously done his research and that, together with his own life experiences meant that I couldn't put it down and read it in one day. He backs up his explanations with great analogies, (I'll be quoting this stuff for years) and he is brutally honest about his own experiences. I found some parts quite difficult reading, as would anyone who has been through heartbreak and has found themselves questioning everything they thought they knew about relationships and people. It also helped me identify many of my own shortcomings whilst at the same time giving me some affirmation. An amazing read.

I found this book from one of the author's posts on Facebook (came across the post by accident when looking for something else). First of all, listening to some of his video posts was interesting to me because some of the topics he talked about kind of resonated with me and my current emotional state. I heard about his book (this book) and thought I'd sample it first. The sample I read led me to buy the rest of the book and found most of the chapters very useful and gave a very helpful insight into the many things I wasn't aware of when it comes to most types of relationships. I agree that to find the kind of love I want in a person starts with how I love myself first. A very good book indeed. I took excerpts from the book that I noted within my phone to remind me which bits struck the strongest cords within my current emotional and mental state. Thank you.

I came across Derrick Jaxn via a Youtube video and decided to buy the book just as a gentle reminder to remain strong in self-love. What a great read. He kept the writing similar to how he'd talk in his videos and it gave it a personal touch. Like talking to a friend in your own living room.A great read for women confused about a current relationship, about to/just heading for the door in a broken relationship and for women who are waiting for their "good man" to appear.This book is a great reminder from a man that us women have to love ourselves first before any man can and know our self worth and hold our heads high so our crowns don't fall. Thanks Derrick for reminding us women that a Queen without a "good king" is still very much a worthy Queen.

I wish there was a way of getting a refund. An extremely flawed author who has built his reputation through deceit and manipulation.Very disappointed.

I inhaled every word deeply, it is a book that literally opened my eyes and I now know where I went wrong! I was taught how to love everyone else but not myself which lead to failed relationships despite me giving my all! Love but with conditions! I'm so grateful that this book landed in my hands...It is a book I will read all over again, cherish it and treasure it as I personally encountered someone years back, separated, came back together damaged each other and now we are separated again...But we weren't able to take upon each other because we both were broken! A book towards healing, loved it! Literally one of the best books I have read lately, caught my attention and the author just says it as it is! This is not a book just for women it is also a book for men who are ready to heal themselves on the inside out!