Power: Surviving & Thriving After Narcissistic Abuse

I have spent the last three years throwing myself into every kind of self help and development program I can to try and heal, but I found myself bumping up against an invisible wall I couldn't describe or understand. After starting therapy earlier this year I learned I had emotional trauma resulting from emotional abuse. From that I began my search anew and discovered this book. The emotional peace and freedom I have gained from this book have impacted me far more than anything else and I finally feel I have the understanding and language to describe what I have been going through.The author has the approach of a survivor, someone who intimately understands what I have been trying so hard to understand myself and could never describe to someone else. She speaks from the same emotional places of hurt and recovery I need, and I can almost feel her nodding her head along with my own wounds and comforting me. At the same time as she speaks subjectively, she includes the relevant research from therapists and specialists in the field, providing links and references to support everything she speaks about. Ultimately combining her approach-ability and comfort with hard facts.Ultimately this book helped guide me to where I can confidently say..."Abuse shaped the victim I was. I shape the survivor I am."

I've been studying narcissism for quite a while and thought I knew everything there was to know by now. I rarely write reviews but I'm so impressed by this book, I can't recommend it enough for anyone who has suffered abuse by a narcissist or is trying to get out of an abusive relationship now. You deserve the best and more... so I strongly encourage you to get this book!

I ordered this book after I sat in my vehicle in 90 degree heat recently in the parking lot of my job on a Saturday night. I could no longer be at the house with this narcissistic abuser I have been living with for 20 years. I could at least pick up some WiFi in the parking lot. As I sat there watching Youtube videos until I thought it was safe to go back to the house, I came across a fantastic video posted by this author Shahida Arabi discussing the importance of knowing what you can do to reclaim your life after narcissistic abuse and all the signs and symptoms of PTSD. I have been looking for a supportive and honest therapaeutic book to help me, and this is it. It is saving my life and instrumental in guiding me through the process of no contact. She knows this personality disorder from the beginning to the end. I wish I could thank her in person. Thank her for giving me the insight and validation that victims need to move forward in the process of healing from the nightmare of this type of damage. I wish I could have read this sooner. Highly reccomend this book.

Where to begin? This book was life changing. it completely validated everything from my experiences (suicide, anxiety, depression, "neediness", literally everything. It took every detail from my past struggles and validated and helped make sense of everything. It's like I was reading my own biography. The book is organic and engaging, and ever word becomes apart of your healing. I'd recommend this read for anyone who has ever dealt with abusive parents, abusive friends or partners, or just being manipulated in general. I cannot begin to thank the author enough for that this book has done for me. Her experience and guidance is something that has defined my life.

This book will change your life if you have been or are being abused by a Narcissist. Reading this book not only helps you understand the mind of a narcissist, but it empowers you to understand that IT'S NOT YOUR FAULT and YOU CAN OVERCOME the abuse. I highly recommend this book to anyone. Knowledge is power. Start with this book.Personally, I had so many "AH-HA" moments reading this book, but I had an epiphany while reading Chapter 4 "20 Diversion Tactics of a Narcissistic". Diversion #1, "he does that"; Diversion #2 "that too", Diversion #3 "wow, that too", Diversion #4 "woah, weird, that too".....on to 5, 6,7,8, 9, 10,11,12,13 ,14, 15, 16, 17,18,19, AND 20! YES...ALL. OF. THE. ABOVE.!! I had to pick my jaw up off the floor. I highlighted the edges of that entire chapter and reference it often. Being in a narcissistic relationship of any kind, Spouse, ex, friend..Etc. is a never-ending cycle of abuse and you can't find the way out. But you can. Remember Sarah's final words in The Labyrinth "You have no power over me".

This book should be required reading for teens or young adults before they begin any serious relationship. I wish I had read this years ago! This book opened my eyes to toxic behaviors I was experiencing in relationship. I now know the red flags to look for so I don't make excuses for others' toxic behaviors, and so I don't allow myself to be subjected to the ongoing and recurring emotional abuse and trauma that these behaviors inflict.

This is an amazing read for anyone who has lived through the experience and survived narcissistic abuse. I wish I could buy this for all the people who ever discounted, invalidated or dismissed my experience as well. I feel that this book will be an asset to my healing and recovery from the abuse!

Great book for anyone with a true narcissist in their lives. The trauma can be difficult to understand and move past and this book helps you to deal with your conflict. Helps you to understand that your self doubts constructed by the narcissist are not real.

I am so glad i came across this book it was a real kick in the teeth for me to wake up to something which has troubled me for as long as i could remember...You know the feeling when you know something is wrong but you cannot quite put your finger on it and start blaming yourself for lack of an alternative?This will put it all in perspective and call out a hidden epidemic of abuse..Modern life is saturated with this kind of malaise and yet on the outside it seems as if nothing is wrong...Well this book brings well needed clarity and yes rage to the situation. Pure passionate rage much needed and long overdue against an injustice so widespread and malignant that anger is the only thing which will bring it out into full view out from its dark hiding places and into the air where we can breath again and heal old chronic wounds and gather courage to voice our oppression and give solace to others who are trapped in suffering. The author is the bravest most inspiring person i have come across and she is very much needed..read it and wake up and reclaim your lost power..

I came across this author on YouTube whilst looking into narcissism. She made so much sense I bought a couple of her books. POWER is the one I read first and it is the first time that I felt she was writing about my own experiences. I am relatively new to the world of narcissism having come across it during counselling. I am still coming to terms with the fact I have a narcissistic parent but my experience fits so well with the book I can no longer deny it. I am still coming to terms with it and reading as much as I can. Shahida Arabi is the most relevant person in the know that I have come across - so much so I passed my POWER book on to my counsellor to read. I thoroughly recommend this book to anyone who is trying to understand this issue and to start regaining control of your life, as I am.I understand this book is enrolled in the Kindle Matchbook Program but I cannot find how to download my free e-book copy on this books Amazon page. I have kept the overall rating as 5 stars as I see this as being an Amazon issue rather than an author issue. Please can Amazon provide information on how I can obtain my free e-book copy?

The only thing that has helped me understand what my cheating, lying, narcissistic ex is all about. And the games he has played and continued to play with me. A wonderful book. It has helped me to begin to heal from over a decade of torment and abuse.

Felt like I had 50 light bulb moments and repeated waves of goose bumps throughout!This book has helped me understand and has released me from the fog of confusion.Amazing!!!

I cannot recommend this book enough. It’s been a real motivator for staying healthy and keeping safe. It explains narcissism perfectly and clearly and reminds us survivors we aren’t going mad!!