The Book of No: 365 Ways to Say it and Mean it―and Stop People-Pleasing Forever (Updated Edition)

I’ve purchased this many times as gifts for friends (all women) and used it in classes I teach. Buy up every copy you can get, ladies!

The best book about people pleasing is Harriet Braiker's book; but a chapter in her book is about saying NO..a little 2 letter word I have had a lot of problems saying to people. Im learning how to say NO. This book of NO gives you sceneros you can follow. You can adapt these to fit your situation.

This is an evergreen must-read that gently leads you to new insights about yourself and how you interact with people. The handiest thing about this book is how it’s organized into different sections where Dr. Newman talks about specific psychological reasons surrounding different kinds of relationships. If you have bigger issues standing up to your parents one week and your spouse another, you can flip through and pinpoint different scenarios in those sections that speak to you. It was interesting that the authors also talked about social media and how technology makes saying no harder or a more anxious process. It’s also a self-help book without feeling preachy. There’s humorous moments and it flows nicely. I didn’t immediately think that I had a problem saying no, but, this has me thinking critically about myself.

We found this book easy to read and full of practical suggestions of when to say No and how. You can start implementing things right away in everyday situations and feel confident in your ability to do so. As people pleasers it was good to have examples to show us the ways in which we need to say No & haven't to our own detriment. Having the updated version that included social media made it a very current reference guide. A great book!

Pros.. the book is a quik read and extremely simple, large font with some interesting quotes, cons.. it’s negative and makes people appear to be manipulating your situation which made me annoyed and anxious which I didn’t expect. It is not true.. the depictions of human behavior are not based on any scientific evidence, the writer must have had some sort of problems with their relationships because she comes across bitter which is not a positive thing to use as a life model. Life is too short to think others always have a hidden motive, it will make you feel insecure especially if you do have issues with saying no and feel guilt telling loved ones you can’t do relationship building with saying “yes” when they need you. What I mean is that this women only listed five references for the material (not good) she clearly has no education about psychology and communication. She basically wrote a book that she didn’t do the homework and research she needed to. Trust me, I have a obsession with reading and I research constantly about communication and interpreting human behavior. It’s actually been a problem as I sought help from books not realizing most are not scientifically proven, authors market it well yet are usually (life coaches, most say the same thing and it take effort and time to find a book that really offers the help Your looking for. So, make sure you read the authors bio, read the references they used to help create it, offer researched based information and have some education in psychology because it’s a a waste of money and time to read a book written by someone who doesn’t know how to offer useful and true information. This book is good for a child maybe 10-13 (my niece is 11 and read it in 15 minutes and felt it was for a kid so I didn’t give it as a gift to anyone (I planned on it) wish the author didn’t use self promotion and instead marketing techniques to draw in the audience.

Given as gift partially as a gag gift. However, I glanced through it and looks like there are some useful tips.

I definitely recommend this book , it gives many real life scenarios and is super practical, and also an eye opener,

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