CREATED FOR CONNECTION

I was introduced to this book through attending a conference day where the co-author, Kenny Sanderfer was launching this into the UK. It recognises the value of Dr Sue Johnson's Hold Me Tight book on Emotionally Focussed Therapy (EFT) and the attachment parallels that exist with our loving Father in heaven. I enjoyed the systematic approach, written in a very accessible style that couples can work through together. Each chapter finishes with a very practical section encouraging readers to apply these principles to their own relationship before progressing to the next chapter. The case studies used were helpful and even though this was created in the States and I am in the UK, I felt empathy with the couples and could ignore cultural differences. Thoroughly recommended.

I've been a practicing Christian for over thirty years. I have a degree in theology. And I had what all outside observers thought was a great marriage. Only after my marriage was close to dissolving did my wife and I seek out counseling. We chose our counselor partly because of her explanation of EFT. She recommended this book and I can say that the effects of reading this book, examining myself, and discussing it with my wife have been life altering. I only wish that this book had been available and that we had read it at the beginning of our marriage as it might have saved us from the greatest strife in our married life. This book is well-researched and yet practical, well-reasoned and yet emotionally engaging. Furthermore, as a Christ-follower the spiritual content does not feel "shoehorned" in, but instead faithfully synthesizes the age old truth of God's love and plan of redemption with proven scientific, clinical research. I cannot recommend it highly enough.

Umfassend und doch leicht verständlich

I read Hold Me Tight first. Created for Connection is very similar. These are books aimed at restoring marriage relationships that have been going for a while but are no longer thriving or even seeming to be at an end. It won't save every marriage but it can help those that still have a desire to reconnect.

I preferred this book to most marriage books I've read. No silly exercises or stereotypes about men and women. Just really great research based information about attachment.