The New Six-Point Plan for Raising Happy, Healthy Children (Volume 13) (John Rosemond)

I read this book because we were having difficulty with discipline for our three kids and parenting was driving me crazy. I was totally overwhelmed and didn't know where to even begin with discipline. We hadn't started soon enough with our older kids and I was afraid we were letting them get out of control. The only advise I was really getting from people around me was to spank them, but I thought there had to be other ways of getting kids attention and get them to understand Consequences. We started to implement a few ideas (our own variation of the ticket plan, for one) and within a week we have seen a huge turn-around in our kids. I have had more peace with discipline, am much less frazzled and overwhelmed, and haven't felt the need to yell in several days. I feel more equipped to dole out patient and consistent discipline as consequences for unacceptable behaviors and feel like I have more time in my days to get things done that need to be done. I don't feel like my days are completely dictated by my kids' whims anymore. Some are suggesting that Rosamond advocates for ignoring your children. NO! He says to give them freedom to explore their world with appropriate boundaries and appropriate consequences for defiant and antisocial behavior.I would give it 5 stars but there are some areas of contention:1) I would never allow a preschooler to have a screaming room. Massive tantrums are defiant and manipulative and should not be allowed. If a child is allowed to go to some other room and scream they just learn to throw their self-indulgent, defiant, manipulative fit somewhere else. It doesn't get to the heart of the behavior, which I think is part of the point of Biblical parenting.2) controversial, I know, but I don't think children with ADHD should be drugged. I think ADHD is over-diagnosed and is almost always a symptom of other issues that can be corrected without drugs. I do agree that too much media/screen time is part of the problem, however.3) I agree that children can and should be pretty much disciplined by age three, but he didn't really give many practical disciplinary measures for kids under 3, which was disappointing. Most of his advise for this age group was just to manipulate them, which I don't agree with. They need real consequences, too.Overall, parents today do not give kids enough freedom to make mistakes and learn from them. This book gave me permission I needed to buck the helicopter-parent trend I was heading toward.

John Rosemond is one of the best child rearing experts around. He wrote a column for the newspaper (Charlotte Observer) when I was rearing my children (and he was rearing his). By profession he is a child psychologist, but he takes one of the most practical, I-am-the-adult-you-are-the-child approaches to child rearing that I have ever encountered. AND IT WORKS. I used it, and my daughter is using it now. None of this pandering to a child's every wish. The parents are in charge. They work as a team. Children are taught to obey and respect and take responsiblity for their actions. They are also taught to be a responsible member of the family. My daughter has four children (ages 8, 6, 4, 1) who set the table, take their dishes from the table, load and unload the dishwasher, help bring in groceries, are responsible for picking up their toys each night, keeping their rooms clean, making their beds. And they don't whine about doing it! And they don't ask for money or try to bargain; they understand that they are being a responsible member of their family. The two older ones take care of the one-year-old by changing his diaper, making sure he is safe around the house, etc.

I purchased this some 25 years ago when my children were young and found it to be the best of all the parenting books I purchased. It was short, and to the point with very useful ideas which actually work. My oldest daughter is expecting soon, and I ordered a copy for her. She really enjoyed it too. Thank Dr Rosemond!

Must read for all parents and grandparents!

We discovered John Rosemond when our 4 sons were very young. Never had been advocates of "parenting" books, but when we read a short column written by Rosemond in BH&G mag, we were very impressed to find someone who articulated a common sense , happiness for all approach to raising children.We were excited to share with anyone who asked about teaching the 3 R's that give kids tools to become healthy, productive citizens, Respect, responsibility and resourcefulness.Now that we have toddler grandchildren, we gave copies to our grown children in hopes they too will have some ammo for warding off the confusion of current "parenting" pressures.The adults will have to submit their own reviews, but the 2.5 year old has become more lovable and content and with much less whining since his parents started giving him firmer boundaries.

My mom used this book as a tool to raise myself and my 7 siblings. After 6 years of me struggling with my own small children, I finally took my mom's advice and purchased the book. Since starting this book, and implementing many of the points, we have seen a great change in our home. This past week, we decided to cut out electronic devices as well as television. I feel like a weight has lifted off my shoulders, as we gain control and peace in our home. I look forward to seeing continued progress in our family. I am so thankful for this book and John Rosemond. I would recommend this book to all parents.

With basic "going back to our roots" Rosemond shows the practical way that children were successfully raised to be good citizens and productive and responsible adults before the ruinous "sixties" that began the destruction of American society. It is a MUST READ for everyone who is serious about raising children (parents, teachers, school administrators) or (grandparents) who are helping raise children. Sadly, those who need it most will turn a deaf ear to what he has to say because of the bias the media has help bring about on this important issue. I am especially happy that it is now available in ebook format at such an affordable price.

I was happy to discover that we were not far off the path for raising good people. I very strongly agree with tv and computer time being strictly limited, makes a huge difference in our kids. Great points about parent-centric family, making sure kids know respectful behavior, manners, and contributions to managing life (chores and household responsibilities).

A big help for me in my journey as a new parent.

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