Fuel

WHERE DO I START??How about with your totally undeserved sense of entitlement. WHO, besides you, in your own debilitated mind, says you are entitled to anything?OK, so you think you are smart. What do you have to prove that aside from conning others to believe you are smart?You tell us that at your workplace, you conned management into believing you were smart by taking credit for what others actually conceived. You tell us you are smart because you can con others in your personal spheres into believing you are smart.And worse still, YOU believe that makes you smart.What a load of crap.You know what you really are: A Fake. A successful fake, to a point, but a fake all the same.You say you can't change how you are. In saying that, I am reminded of a school verse from the past that goes:"Can't couldn't do it because won't wouldn't let it."That is YOU to a "T."You are simply too WEAK, yes WEAK, to fix this fault, yes FAULT in yourself.Oh how much easier it is to go on giving away YOUR fuel (power) to the ghosts of your past (without ever admitting you feel too weak to stop feeding those ghosts), and instead blame others in your present from whom you steal, yes STEAL fuel.Face those ghosts from your past and STOP feeding them your personal fuel such that you then COWARDLY, yes, COWARDLY take fuel from others to replace what you so COWARDLY and WAEKLY gave away to ghosts of your past who DO NOT MATTER ANYMORE!You will NEVER be able to give away enough of yourself (your fuel) to satisfy what YOU think those ghosts continue to demand of you. They, frankly, don't give a carp and NOTHING you can ever do (be it give your fuel away, or now take it from others) will EVER make any difference.So you failed with the ghosts of the past. So what? All that is history you can NEVER change.Particularly NOT by stealing others fuel in the present in any kind of misguided attempt to make you feel some measure of strength in your ongoing (but totally pointless) attempts to prove to the ghosts of your past that you are still better than them.Who, but sides you, cares?? NOBODY. As the saying goes:"Let the dead past buried the dead."Good advice. Move the eff on! Starting now. STOP thinking you can injure those in your present and that, somehow, will pay off the debts of the past.Why do you suppose you have to repeat your weak and sophomoric behaviourwithnew conquests time and again?Because you know what you are doing is wrong.You WILL grow old, you WILL die. We all do. If you CONTINUE along this same path, I can't wait till the time you find yourself, as we all will someday, alone and old and decrepit and weak.WHO are you going to charm then, huh? You will have burned all your bridges and WHO do you think, reasonably, is going to care about you then?You'd better start thinking about that time to come because judging from your age now, you are not that far from it.Relationships that matter, and people who continue to care about you when your looks and your health are gone take DECADES to produce. WHAT are you doing for ANYBODY besides yourself so that they care about you when you have lost your looks, your health, and possibly even the full strength of your intellect.That you haven't done any of that to date; I mean trying to rectify what it is about your narcissistic ways you claim are too hard to try to rectify only shows HOW TRULY WEAK YOU ARE.NO OBSERVABLE STRENGTH OF CHARACTER IN YOU, YOU WUSS, IF YOU DONT BEGIN TO EFFECT CHANGE NOW!!

NO ONE can explain this better Nor Help You More than HG Tudor. What’s hard to understand is this, A Narcissist is so selfish and self serving, one would wonder why a self claimed Narcissist would not only write about his expertise, but be willing to help others understand what you are dealing with! Well that’s exactly what HG does and more. He is the only one to go to for the full and complete understanding of Narcissist’s and your interaction, role with them. If you are an Empath, you can and will be drawn to these individuals. HG equips you with knowledge, and complete understanding as to invite you into the mind of a Narcissist and Understand What They Experience and What They Think and Why They Do What They Do To You. Here’s the kicker, HG IS SO GOOD, if for any reason you need help with this as it turns into an addiction for many Empaths, He, better than any psychiatrist or mental health professional that I’ve seen in healthcare (healthcare is the profession I work in) that can help you not only deal with a narcissist, he can save you from them too and has many tools to do so. His writing is unbelievable, his honesty is justified with his knowledge, first hand experience and transparency that he offers in his writings, articles included if you sign up for his mailing list for free with Amazing offers and content. And he offers one on one coaching. Forget any other type of resource HG is the go to. I’ve not been paid to say this. I have this book which blew me away, as all of his writings do. HG is a gift for Empaths, and sadly the person to expose those Narcissist’s that have a mind set that does Not make sense to the person involved with them. HG Tudor is the one who can save you from your grief by offering you tools of understanding and truly helping you if you need it.

Very well written. Highly enlightening!

I would highly recommend that "Fuel" be the very first book anyone reads on the subject of narcissism if they have the misfortune of having to deal with a narcissist. You have to understand what "fuel" is to a narcissist, before you can ever understand why they do the horrible things that they do.They live for it, it's the first thing they think about when they get up in the morning, according to Tudor, and they will scheme every waking minute to figure out how they can get the highest amount of it. He explains that there is positive fuel and negative fuel. Positive fuel is "praising them," telling them how beautiful or handsome they are, telling them how smart they are, and things of that nature, which the average person could probably deal with if they knew that is what they are after, but .... WOE be unto you if they don't get enough positive fuel, because then they will require negative fuel, and this is the horrific part. They get negative fuel in a way that is very similar to sadists. They get "fuel" from hurting their victims, by demeaning them, by falsely accusing them, by crazy making, and sometimes even by physical violence, but most of the narcs I know, seem to enjoy mentally and emotionally abusing their victims the most. If you live with a narcissist, you know exactly what I am talking about. This book WILL help you understand them. They do not act like or think like or have the values of "normal" people, and if you don't understand that, and understand what fuel is to them, you way will be much harder.

I'm extremely impressed with HG Tudor's ability to explain Narcissism. It took me a few years to understand the behaviour of my wife (prior to getting away). I did lots of reading of legitimate sources (articles from qualified clinical professionals and books about difficult to deal with people. etc.) until the penny finally dropped and I found the pattern (Narcissism) that explains her behaviour.I could have saved myself a huge amount of time and much trouble if I knew to go straight to HG. His explanations deepen my understanding and relate to my experiences perfectly in a way that the academic psychological approach doesn't get close to.HG may cause difficulties for members of his fuel matrix, but he has been brilliant in helping me. I can't praise you higher HG. I know I'm pandering to your fuel needs HG, but this is fully deserved on your part. Your works relate to and explain my experiences perfectly. In comparison to what I have learned previously, you work has led me to much greater insight and helped me in my life.If you realise you are being hurt by a narcissist, read HG Tudor's books. They will provide the knowledge you need in a way vastly superior to other sources. Thank You HG.

Complete nonsense obviously written by a fantasist.They clamber to appear more interesting than they are. Delusional doesn't even touch it. It's so fake it's laughable and I did in fact laugh out loud several times because of the ridiculousness of it.The fact that they need their ego massaging to such an extent, only illustrates just how insecure they are, or perhaps pretend to be.They've created a persona of a comic book narcissist in an attempt to present intellect. However, the 'writer', and I use the term loosely, instead comes across as a pathetic individual who is so insignificant, they have thrown together this cheap self-published fantasy of someone they aspire to be but never will be. 'Their' lifestyle is so obviously fantasy, they are instead more likely to be a lowly worker with zero responsibility and fairly invisible to others on a day-to-day basis.Their claims to have a 'Lieutenant in camps of those they claim to torment is beyond ridiculous.This work of fiction can only be self-published as no self-respecting Editor would allow such badly written drivel to exist in their publishing house or back catalogue.The 100 pages are well suited to the cheap printing.Don't waste your money unless you want a giggle.

I would say that a high percentage of people reading this book will do so because they have suffered narcissistic abuse. This book will help you understand why you have been treated in such a way. Brutally honest and informative. It won’t make you feel sorry for the narcissist in your life but it will help you understand them.

I have read many books on narcissism, this gives more insight into the mind of the narcissist than any I have read, and if you sense any denial on your own part this is for you. You will never be able to go back to kidding yourself that you can win the genuine affections and love of someone who has not intention or reason to change, and as brutal as it is, cliches aside, it will liberate you from your pain.

There are heaps of books on the subject of narcissism. I have not enjoyed any until now. HG Tudor provides privileged and direct insight into how the narcissist interacts with people. The best bit about it is that he clearly explains why devaluing and hoovering are so thrilling to the narcissist and why a co-dependent is their top source of fuel. I cannot recommend this book enough.