If He Had Been with Me Paperback – November 1, 2019

Just finished it less then an hour ago. This book took me on a ride. Trying not to spoil anything but I’m lost for words and little broken at the moment. I have had ”readers” block for honestly for a year. Trying to pick a book and quitting it less then half way. But this book personally it intrigued, frustrated and made me emotional on so many parts. I just could not quit it and something always drew me back in. I honestly liked that it wasn’t just any other romance book or the story line didin’t go just as in any other book. Or maybe it did but I was too invested to put it down. Give it a chance!

I didn't hate it but I didn't love it. I really enjoyed the artistic writing style, and the simplicity of how the story was told. The things she recalls from her relationship with Jamie shows us how she really feels about him vs what she lets herself think about him, which is very true to how one feels in a toxic relationship. Ignore the red flags. I thought that was very interesting writing.When she tried not to think about Finny, but she couldn't stop herself and it's almost like she didnt know what love felt like, but she also knew what love didn't feel like.However, it felt like a very thin reason that she stopped talking to him for six years because she was confused about why he kissed her. Like the whole book could have been cancelled out if she had just asked him a simple question instead of running away that night.It ended very sadly. I knew it was going to happen the whole time and I was sad through the whole book. Tummy ache read.

Finn and Autumn were the best of friends until middle school. That's when they seemed to grow apart. Finn was with the popular crowd and Autumn was with the not-so-popular crowd. Their moms were still friends and they were still neighbors, so they saw each other most days. Autumn has Jaime now and they have been going out for practically forever. So what if she feels a pang in her chest when she looks at Finn. She's happy with her new friends and her new life...right?Love this book. This will most likely be my favorite for the year. Laura Nowling just gets it. Everything is just completely brilliant in this novel. The characters are totally great and the story is heartbreaking and just so honest. "I want to savour this wonder, this happening of loving a book and reading it for the first time, because the first time is always the best, and I will never read this book for the first time ever again." She also totally gets being a reader. It always draws me into the book when the character is a big reader too.Finn and Autumn were the best characters. I always wanted a friend like Finn. I wanted that kind of easy friendship where the line between two people is blurred. It was devastating to me to see them not together. I could feel the pull in Autumn's chest each time she saw Finn. Even though she was happy with her other friends and Jaime, she wasn't as happy as she could be. Her heart still wanted more. It crazy how such a small little thing could drive people apart without them even realizing why. A simple miscommunication and two lives are left incomplete. It's awful, but I'm sure it happens all the time.Jaime was an okay character. I think I loved Finn too much to really give Jaime a chance. It seemed a little bit mean at times, but nothing too bad. He just wasn't a good fit for Autumn's eccentricity. Their little group seemed to function like any group of friends and they all seemed to work okay together.The only bit that I wasn't crazy about is when we read Autumn's story that she wrote. She was supposedly this really wonderful author, but the story was fairly juvenile. It wasn't bad it was just kind of basic and plain.This book is everything I want my realistic fiction to be. Just beautiful and honest. I knew how it was going to end early one, you kind of know from the first few pages. Regardless, you are still wishing and hoping that the outcome isn't what it seems to be. It was awful in a good way--in a I don't ever want this book to end kind of way. It made me laugh, it made me bawl my eyes out, it made my chest hurt and it made me close the book and immediately want to pick it up and start from the very beginning. It made me feel everything as if it was my own story.First Line:"I wasn't with Finny on that August night, but my imagination has burned the scene in my mind so that it feels like a memory."Favorite Lines:"No one is perfect.""'I think we're supposed to experience as much beauty as we can.'""The icy wind burns through my gloves and my fingers ache until they fall numb and silent.""I can feel them in my mouth like three smooth pebbles."

If He Had Been with Me by Laura Nowlin captures the raw, authentic emotions of the teenage experience. The characters’ thoughts, emotions, and conversations feel genuine, making this more of a coming-of-age story than a typical teen romance, which I really appreciated. It’s relatable in many ways, especially for readers who remember the intensity of their teenage years.However, I struggled with the writing style. It felt disjointed at times, which made it hard for me to stay engaged while reading. Switching to the audiobook helped me enjoy it more and made it easier to get through.While the overarching narrative was engaging, I was left wanting more from the romance between Autumn and Finn. Their relationship felt underexplored, and Finn’s character lacked depth, which made it hard to connect with him fully. The ending, though expected from the start, felt rushed and abrupt. I was hoping for a more emotionally impactful conclusion, but it fell flat for me.Overall, If He Had Been with Me had moments of brilliance in its portrayal of adolescence, but the underdeveloped romance and writing style held it back for me. I’d recommend it for those who enjoy coming-of-age stories, but it may not resonate as deeply for fans of romance-driven narratives.