The Book of Numbers: Analyzing the ROI on the Pursuit of Women

Love the humbling stats. Very helpful for knowing what I want in life / a partner and creating a plan to get it. As Aaron points out, the best thing to do is get out there and don't stay in your man hut all week!

There is a lot of truth in this book. The numbers do not lie. However, don't despair, there are several solutions to improving your odds of a happy marriage that are not mentioned in this book.One is only dating devoutly religious women. Specifically, women who are devout members of a religion that puts restrictions on human sexual behavior as well as making honesty a virtue.Secondly, he eliminates 59.6% of women who are overweight as not being marriage material, which is ridiculous. Being overweight is not that big of a deal: they're called "fixer-uppers". My friend dated a girl who was overweight and got her to lose weight by teaching her proper dietary principles and now she is gorgeous. With the arrival of the carb-addiction model of obesity, the progress of eating-disorder psychology, and the keto and carnivore diets, being overweight is now an easily fixable problem.Third, he sadly stigmatizes mental illness by eliminating 25% of woman as being unmarriageable ( roughly the percentage of women who take antidepressants) . This is also unnecessary. Women who are depressed or anxious shouldn't be eliminated from consideration, given how messed up the culture we live in is. I've even known women with bipolar disorder who are happily married. No, what I think he's talking about are women who are narcissistic, psychopathic, or have anger or emotional issues, are selfish and dishonest, are lazy or critical or ungrateful or rebellious or hysterical, or those that have other personality disorders. These are not mental illnesses but moral failings, which is big difference. True mental illness cannot be helped and should not be condemned as he does.Other than that he he provides some other good solutions beating the odds he presents in his book.

This is a very helpful book by an author who has a strong grasp of both the American dating scene, macroeconomics, and personal finances. He skillfully ties the three together in this essential read for all unmarried men who are still questioning whether they should try harder, stop trying, keep doing what they are doing, or take the leap to marriage.I would split the big into four main areas, all of which Clarey offers substantive thought:1. The Numbers2. The Calculations3. Historical Context4. How to Move Forward1. The numbers are essential and very honest, for Clarey offers disclaimers and states assumptions throughout. He also cites his sources within the actual passages, rather than just at the end.2. The calculations are the pinnacle to the book, since they are the first attempt to actually quantify this rather abstract albeit essential topic. Dating coaches, psychologists, family members, and religious leaders may offer some wisdom, but all of them do not offer the type of statistical calculations that Clarey offers.3. Historical context. This is a very important part so that men can realize what the state of the world is. Take for example the portion of women who are overweight in the United States. In 1950, this "deal breaker" was hardly an issue. In fact, peer pressure from family, friends, and the opposite sex would act as a counterbalance to women who were not disciplined in their dietary and exercise habits.4. How to move forward. Although the book is called "The Book of Numbers" this may be the most important component. Drawing upon philosophy, what matters in life, and the opportunity costs (both in terms of finances and times), Clarey presents some alternative activities that men can spend their time doing.Overall, this is a very thoughtful piece by a very thoughtful writer.

Overall a great book with a lot of good information. As a single young man myself, I didn't realize (until I read the book) how much I had spent on dating women, and most of that money could have been put into stocks or precious metals and made me wealthier than wasting it on women for "coffee dates" or "wine tasting" not to mention the hours I could have gotten back not wasting it. I agree with the premise that most men are better off doing literally anything else besides putting effort into dating- as Aaron notes, if you do well for yourself women will be attracted to you anyway.The only reason I don't give this book 5 stars is that I was hoping to see more calculations than just the 'average'. Specifically, I would like to see a 2nd edition at some point in the future (and more sales opportunities for Aaron) that has the actuarial numbers for men at other levels, perhaps organized by a table. What are your chances of success in category x if you are a 7 out of 10? How about a 3 out of 10? The more categories included, the more likely a particular man will identify with the number rather than just using the 'average' manoverall, this is a great book and a must-read for young men who are in the dating market; your $8 are better spent here getting some wisdom than on the coffee date with some incredibly boring woman you will regret ever seeing (assuming she doesn't flake out on the date).

I’ve been searching for a book like this my whole life. I’ve tried to do these calculations myself to some extent and it always a nightmare to gather the stats, data, input the correct equations and game out various scenarios for my Aspie brain. If you’re looking for a Manosphere type book in the vein of Rollo Tomassi’s legendary The Rational Male but specifically about the math and statstics surrounding the pursuit of women in Modernity and updated for the era of Covid and Woke insanity, this is absolutely that book. Even if you have other manosphere books I still strongly recommend this one. It’s an easy, funny, short read chock full of stats, data, methodologies, and specific viewpoints gained after the fact I don’t think you’ll find anywhere else. Take a look at some of the pages in the pics I don’t think you’ll be disappointed. Enjoy!

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Aaron's Clarey work on this book was revised by an actuary, the calculations are technically true, but many of the initial premises lack realism. Yes, the majority of men and women are not really worth for marriage, and the relationships among sexes is at an all-time low. Still, many of the premises are ridiculous. For example, he considers a happy marriage one that lasts forever and is happy. Well what if most people marry not because they are in love, but because they are bored or don't really know what else to do with life. Or perhaps people just like to over-complicate things hen they have no real problems, such as a man in his 30s or a woman in her 20s. Still, the last chapter delivers sound advise for all young men, regarding the pursue of virtue, honor and also very sound dating advise. Yes, Mr Aaron clearly indicates that this is a work of pop-economics, but when you cite reddit threads as your sources, you might as well tell that it is a work of pure humor or fiction. If he had labeled this as "I was bored on coronachan and I spent a couple months making statistics out my head to evidence the reality and also give some good advise" I would give this 4 stars.

Great read. Shows the statistics and relative data relating to relationships and marriage of the modern age

The book was carefully made with a solid foundation in statistics and numbers. But far from thinking that it is a monotonous and lifeless work. Quite the opposite! The author managed to mix the numbers with the letters with a mastery for a few. If you take the content of this book seriously, you will be ahead of 99% of men who have never known this information. And that gives you an incredible advantage against the pitfalls, especially financial ones, that disastrous relationships cause.

Most of these things you can see in action around you from family, friends and work mates. It is not hidden but it seems for some are blinded by the myth or fairlytale only to turn into a horror movie.Rather spend the time, money and effort on you improving and exploring having the best lifestyle that you want for your self as that is the most important person.