Dom's Guide To Submissive Training: Step-by-step Blueprint On How To Train Your New Sub. A Must Read For Any Dom/Master In A BDSM Relationship (Men's Guide to BDSM)

I am so glad that I took the time to read this book before I began my journey into the BDSM world. I learned so many great things from it. The book is set up to make sure you get the most from it and gives clear and descriptive instructions on how to make the relationship work the best it can. Simple little things that I would not have thought of are explained with their uses and benefits very well illustrated. I would not have thought to have a contract or two different collars with one for training and one for the actual relationship.The book covers every part of training necessary to ensure that your relationship is successful. I really enjoyed how well the need for trust and education was explained. It's not enough to just jump into a BDSM relationship. To be the best experience for you both, it is necessary to have a well thought out plan in place. Each of the different areas that you will find yourself in, are well documented and explained in each of the easy to read chapters. I am really looking forward to continuing my exploration of this exciting area now that I have read this book.

While this is a subject many people may show interest in on the rising popularity of "50 Shades of Grey", this book is NOT a 'movie plot/scene play' guide book for dilettantes or wannabe "Mr. Grey"s seeking to play-act. Ms. Cramer's book is NOT a 'quick' read, it requires thought and some familiarity with the BDSM lifestyle. She explains how (male/female) Dominants should approach training their subs in a responsible, non-abusive, respectful manner consistent with accepted and proven BDSM 'protocols' without giving overly prescriptive, "one size fits all", advice or directions. This is NOT a "Submissive Training for Dummies" book despite the "step-by-step" moniker in the book's title..Any D/s relationship will have its own unique dynamics, the evolution of those dynamics which touched upon in this book are not its' focus. If you're seeking advice on relationship dynamics, such as TPE (Total Power Exchange) or how to handle other D/s relationship issues I recommend you take a look at the books by Michael Makai (The Warrior Princess Submissive) available here on Amazon. This book neither encourages or discourages BDSM lifestyle choices.This book does presume the Dominant and the Sub have mutually agreed and have both acknowledged their desires to enter into a sustainable, enjoyable D/s relationship fully informed of their separate identities,and roles and are ready to accept their mutual duties, responsibilities to such a relationship.This book will NOT 'rescue' either the Dominant or the Submissive from training mistakes or missteps already made; it will NOT answer fundamental 'how to choose a Dom/Sub' questions. It will offer intelligent and practical advice to D/s couples in a variety of circumstances - live-in, long-distance, occasional scene play. The advice is applicable to Dominants and Submissives (D/s) of BOTH genders - M/M, F/F, F/M, and M/F combinations.Submissive's seeking to to use the book to "educate" their Dominants or to take their D/s relationship to a higher level of commitment and formality should first read Michael Makai's other book, also on Amazon, "62Q: Sixty-two Questions For Your Dominant". Mr. Makai's book offers a set of questions specific to training which would be more appropriate and could offer the Sub a better way to 'send the message' this book offers about submissive training.After reading this book, I strongly recommend reading the second and third books in this series by the same author (also available on Amazon): "Submissive Training: 23 Things You Must Know About How To Be A Submissive. A Must Read For Any Woman In A BDSM Relationship (Women's Guide to BDSM) " and the " Dom's Guide To Submissive Training: Step-by-step Blueprint On How To Train Your New Sub. A Must Read For Any Dom/Master In A BDSM Relationship (Men's Guide to BDSM) (Volume 1) " Unfortunately, these books do have a 'gender bias' which is regrettable​. Yet the advice is still useful.

Simple but elegant layout of the needs in any good d/s relationship. Truly thoughtful and thorough with all necessary components, layed out intrinsically.

Very informational. Lots of good information but I dont agree with it all. My sub loves spanking. She was grinning ear to ear as I described what the author suggests. I know of other schools, such as the crow academy, that do not use corporal punishment for this exact reason. I did get a lot of good ideas and information but we will not be following all of her advice. That being said the advice was a good starting point that needs modification but it's worth the purchase.As for the physical book itself. Well its not worth the money. The book has roughly 70 pages. Thats 35 pieces of paper. Seven pages fell out just turning the page. That's 20% of the book that fell out on the first read. The binding is garbage on a book that covers bondage. The irony was not lost.

This book is concise and to the point. I've gone through it twice and really like it. I also like another book by the same author - Care and Nurture for the Submissive. This Dom's Guide is written from Dom's perspective. It takes you through sub training step-by-step. It focuses more on the mechanics of the training, which, if taken out of context, may seem about abusing subs - I think that's why some people apparently misread it. But nothing can be further from the truth. You really need to read the entire book to get the whole picture. It's all about consent, learning, improving, and building a deeper relationship with your subs. The author has other books on how to take care of subs and from sub's perspective that I think should be read together with this series. I would also recommend Dom's Guide To BDSM series by Matthew Larocco, which cover a broader spectrum.

Light reading

Wonderful book but should be titled Training a Slave, not a submissive.

You think that in this day and age, gender bias, would be a thing of the past, and the BDSM community, a group that faces prejudice and intolerance from “main stream society, would embrace the wonderful variety of flavors and roles that comprise the community. Instead, this book resorts to the tired cliché that all Doms are men and all subs are women. I didn’t even see one line squib, indicating some variety in this. Biased, not well-written, uninformative, and not worth the money.

A young woman will join me soon to spend many good years together. She is submissive by nature and is eager to become totally submissive. I needed to know exactly how to proceed with her training. This book gave me just what i was looking for.

The book focuses on male dom and fem sub training but lacks depth and different perspectives other than one main structuring. The training advice is more of a middle thing between hands on and general advice and thus lacks specific scenarios, instructions, suggestions and ways to deepen ones Ds relationship, and does not give different perspectives like talking about different levels of commitment in a ds relationship, how they develop and how to deal with problems specific to different levels of submission in a relationship.For a practical guide it lacks authenticity, the advice given seems to be more of a help to people without a clear vision how to deepen a real life ds relationship that actually works.Also, in many such training or advice publications I frequently miss a discussion about different perspectives about what is fantasy and what is reality, since legally consent is the basis of any relationship and therefore the question what real submission in real life means is only insufficiently discussed.

A concise brilliant instruction manual for the new DomCovered every angle of D/s sub training. I particularly enjoyed the reasoning behind the actions taken. Overall, this is a journey into the mind of the D and s.

Very instructive.

Good book for a beginner, would recommend this book to others who wants to start out in BDSM ..... good